Mistress Noir says BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR.... no really!!!

What can your Mistress say except, BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR BOYS & MEN!!! 

The video serves as a good reminder that not all our fantasies that play in our heads will play the same in somebody elses head. If you decide to pitch a fetish or fantasy to your partner its without a doubt a risky move with no way to determine its outcome, positive or negative. 

Women, when presented with kink and fetish, given no prior exposure, will typically not see your kink in the same way you have come to terms with it. If you wish for a woman to dominate you, its almost a given she isn't going to want to learn how to dominate you via you. We as humans have to have a reason to embrace new thoughts or consider things outside our comfort zone. 

My recommendation is if you wish to include your partner in your fetish, or wish they join in your kinky games you seek out some guidance, via a kink friendly counselor or someone who can give you ideas on how to pitch your desire so its given half a chance to the person you wish to "come out too". If she doesn't see the benefit of why she should let you wear panties while fucking her, she isn't going to hop on the panty bandwagon without some resistance. Conveying the value add of a kink or fetish incorporated into a real relationship can be a tricky thing to do, regardless of how open minded they are. 

I addvocate sharing and allowing partners the opportunity to embrace and incorporate kinks and fetishes with their partners. Just be cautious in how your unveil your kinks and realize the consequences of doing so sometimes wont be the outcome you pictured or hoped for. 

Happy kinky Saturday boys & girls,
Smooches, 
Mistress Noir

DIARY OF A CHASTITY EXPERIMENT ... Mistress Noir shares her experience...

 Chastity - Ruined Orgasms - Orgasm Denial

CB3000 or 8000 (lol) whatever ... Its a Cage for Your Cock

 21 days was the deal and he made it to 17 ... 

Here is a journal of our chastity experience.

http://chastityslaveofnoir.blogspot.com/

Yes, I was pissed how it ended but the experiment itself was a great learning experience and Im glad I did it as well as keeping a journal with the slave that agreed to do this experiment. 

As you can see, its an ungodly hour so its time to say Publish so I can go to bed. This technology stuff is kicking my brain with  all the nuances of making technology get up on the cloud. 

and you say, "Thank you Mistress Noir"... you are welcome subby's!!


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Social Media and Technology LOVE/HATE Relationship - The Mistress Noir

Just a quick note ... this internet cyberland social media stuff is another fucking full time job to manage...
Ugh!!!
That is, all I'm ranting about tonight!!!
Hope you all appreciate my New Years Resolution to get it together on the world wide web...

Kinky Kisses from your Mistress Noir

Mistress Noir shares a great note from a unhappy Kinkster

or so he thought he was unhappy....and it turned out nope he was happy after our session had a chance to sink in...

written 8 months ago:

hi ms noir.

i dont know if you remember me but we had a one time late night session a while ago then after that i pretty much pissed off. i wanted to apologize for how i acted after the fact. Im not a flakey person (even though im sure you disagree) and i just wanted to reach out and tell you how amazing of an experience that was. i didnt realize at the time but being with you really opened my eyes sexually, it was the first time that a fantasy became reality and honestly i didnt really know how to handle it. Im not making any excuses or anything and im sure youre beyond the point of caring of why i acted the way i did.

I guess the main point of this message was just for me to say thank you. thank you for everything. you are the first person in my life to impact my sexual desires in a positive way and im never gonna forget it. Ive never felt comfortable about my kinks and honestly ive never really felt comfortable in my own skin but that night really changed all that. I have nothing but genuine affection and gratitude for what you showed me and i just wanted to let you know because its been on my mind for awhile.

I love when someone gets something more than they gamble for. Then when the let me know,  even better!!!  

Smooches,
Mistress Noir

Mistress Noir - back on her original blog

 Im happy to be on my original blog again!!!

I feel as though my web guy did something wickedly magical given its with technology that I thought was all but lost. HE REVIVED MY ORIGINAL BLOG!!

Lets share a moment of ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh big gratitude since I thought I was starting from complete scratch on the world wide web AGAIN.  The blog that continued after I shut down and merged this one into my website, is unfortunately lost but it beats starting all the way from ZIP ZERO ZAPPED - NOTHING!!! 

YAY WEBGUY who saves my ass every time my technology tasks gets bigger than my brain can commute on its own. This last web disappearance totally all my own doing. Ugh!!! Sometimes I am not a one woman online superpower with super hero abilities in technical masterminding over the web. But I try. To the dismay of my web guy damn it I try.

Everyone seems to be blogging these days so its a miracle if anyone finds me, and by the lack of comments historically its like talking to yourself hoping for comments and interaction from those that follow me seems to be few and far between. Also, no fun. 

So if you have found me, and like a post or have a thought please share with me... it will encourage me to write and share more with you!!! Does this make sense? 

Smooches, 
Mistress Noir
WWW.THEMISTRESSNOIR.COM