The day CHASTITY & CUM CONTROL became NO FUN! ... Mistress Noir

A real story about CHASTITY...

Chapter One

I am almost 50 now and I don’t know much about life.

I’ve only really had 2 girlfriends in my life and both relationships didn’t last very long.

Most of my early experiences were pathetic.

I was a musician. I partied, drank, did drugs and fucked strippers and groupies.
But when I say fuck, I didn’t realize that’s not what I was doing.

It wasn’t until several years went by that I realized that sticking my tiny penis in a girl for a few minutes, cumming and thinking that’s what sex was, wasn’t really.

35 years on, I know now I am not a real man.

I finally accepted what I was and reached out to Mistress Noir.

We recently got together and discussed my situation and she has taken control of my life.

It has started with her placing me in chastity.

She is now in control of my baby penis and all potential future orgasms if I ever have them again.

I am both terrified by this new way of life and what possible future humiliations I may face.

But I am determined to not disappoint her.

Update: He was good for 2 days, and then bolt cut the lock off himself, without my permission. Imagine that! Give the boy exactly what he wants and they still are not happy, and do whatever they damn well please.

Moral of this blog post is - If you are going to give me control over you, bolt cutting the control off without discussion of this with me isn't going to serve you or me well. In fact it pissed me off. It also makes me think long and hard about how much does a guy really want to be in chastity? Sounds fun in concept , but in reality if you are not going to give over the control and allow me the pleasure of controlling your CUM for the agreed upon time, be it 1 day, 7 days, or 30 day's etc... then why do I bother? The game isn't fun for me when you bolt cut your lock off and don't fulfill your end of the arrangement.  There was promise of paying penalty fine for breaking out without permission and a gift of a new strap on for his bad behavior but guess what?? That promise was never satisfied either. What's a dominatrix to do?

Well this is what I've decided...

Chastity key holding will be handled differently going foward. The rules of the game will be different. Future requests for this kink will be done with stricter consequences put into place. Upfront deposits will be required to enlist my role in holding you chaste, until I say you can CUM. Along with device choice... no longer will I take on chastity keyholding for those with CB Series devices unless it's been fitted with a lock that can't be bolt cut off. No plastic locks either. This means you will have to invest in a much more costly device prior to me locking you into it, and removing it on your own should not be an easy feat or you'll need to buy one that meets my new criteria.  Communication and control is the key for this to work. Me controlling your CUM must be possible to enforce or this kink sucks and I won't play no more. Which would be sad as I love controlling men's CUM.

Cheers,
Mistress Noir

SUMMER SESSION PROMOTION IN THE MONTH OF AUGUST w/ Mistress Noir

        The Dog Days of Summer

Oh my gosh when is it gonna be winter here in hot desert Arizona? ?

I would love to play with some friendly faces. What better way to surface past, present, and faithful minions of mine than to offer a secret summer special?!

If you have seen me in the past, you're on not on the local bad boy blacklist site, and you book a session in the month of August... you will be given a chance to accept a challenge that will, allow you to draw from the Mistress Pimp Cup to  ~>

 * *receive 30% up to 50% OFF an hour session with me. Some restrictions apply* *

Call for the details. Hurry August will be over before we know it. This special offer disappears at the end of the month.

Kinky kisses and fetish luv,
Your Mistress Noir

Respect is expected at what point? Mistress Noir 1

... from the first HELLO!

I have been doing fetish professionally for awhile now, so it amazes me at the disrespectful and downright rude behavior of those who've contacted me and engaged in my specialties. Now its trickled into those who I consider to be valued subby's/clients with established relationships between them and myself. 

What's up with mankind? 

Respect is still respect... right? 

Manners haven't been discontinued from the human race yet, have they? 

I checked we all revolve around a 24 hour clock. I'm going to assume each of us are all trying to maximize our time to its fullest each and every day, right? Do you tolerate a schedule of appointments that no call no show? Do you have a calendar of clients who fill the week and fail to properly cancel, or do at the very last minute, effectively killing your business opportunities one by one til you reach the end of a promising full business week? 

This isn't a sometimes occurrence, this is a damn epidemic with lots of mankind who are interacting with me. Now mind you, I'm not calling mankind and asking that they make appointments with me just to no show and cancel as fast as they schedule them... no! no! no! Mankind is calling me and setting up time with me of their own freewill. 

I assume they are aware of their schedules that day or the day + they book time with me and if their schedules change, the polite and unspoken business ettiquettte of manners would be contact the person with whom you made an appointment with if you have to reschedule A eeeeeeeeee cancel for whatever reason as soon as you know you cant keep a commitment you have initiated? Right? This is a no brainer in my humble opinion.8

  

Wow! No matter how I see this, it comes back as rude, disrespectful, calculating, time sabatoging, and personal quality of life monsters of the worst kinds. I pretty sure if I wasnt prepared and ready for those that come to see me, or accept session requests and then didnt show up to our schedules session time, I would have zero clients and a pretty bad rap with mankind who would post mean reviews all over our cyber land bitching and moaning how flaky I was and how terrible I was for being a scamy lazy provider wasting everyones scared and vauable time, right?

Is it because what I do falls under the "Adult Industry" that warrants one to lose their respect for women as a whole? Is it because internet porn is so FREE anymore that you think I should be treated as frivolously as you do your XTUBE video clips? Is it the same now that I should be at your finger tips and instant gratification?! Do you think we should be waiting for your call, be available instantly because you are in my area or right around the corner? Are adult providers a lower class human than your wife, mother, daughter, sister? Does providing a safe outlet for your fetish exploration disqualify me from being respected by those that procure services from a adult provider? Maybe our time is less important than yours? Our lives don't matter beyond the time you interact with me directly? I don't know what the real reasons are but damn it I'm gonna start a research poll, I'm curious and want to know whats going on in the brains of you mankind.

But in the mean time I am going to ask you to change your bad behavior mankind.

* Don't be a time blocker, or a time waster.
* If you are not ready for a session with me in person, do not make an appointment and then no call no show.
* Don't call me without giving me at least an hour to prepare for your time with me.
* Don't disrespect the service I am providing you by trying to negotiate cheaper tributes or asking me to do my livelihood pro-bono with you.
* Don't ask me to do sexual acts as I am not an escort.
* If you don't understand what a fetish is, or the basic concepts of domination, don't ask me to explain it to you over the phone. Google is your friend just like it is for me too.  Do your homework.

Thank you!
Noir (and that's Mistress Noir to you)

Mistress Noir - Valentines Day ... ugh!

Had this session been on Valentines Day - OMG BECKY!!!

But truth be told my ever faithful Butler, Jose is here cleaning my little spot on the earth.

Im typing a blog to cyber universe aka YOU~ yup that's how a dominatrix spends her Valentines evening. 

Whhooohooo - did you really think it was gonna be romance? !!!

Ha!!

Mistress Noir says WHAT'S NEW PUSSYCAT?

Exciting stuff is brewing in my little chuck of cyberspace. 

In my efforts to be more accessible to those that seek my attn, I have decided to focus this year on improving my online presence. Giving you my devoted minions more opportunities to serve me, oogle me, communicate with me, and submit to me.

Wow!


Im getting a headache just thinking about all that. As most of you know by now I super duper HATE most of my technology devices. Learning all the stuff it requires to be a web persona of any interest is quite complicated. Well to me it is. I'm sure for the tech savvy ones out there this "whhhoaaa is me" rant is amusing. 

Anyways, one of new things that you will see is JD Stockroom featured here on my blog and website. 

I will be reviewing products and giving you my two cents worth of an opinion on various items and when I begin my tease and denial weekly cam sessions, depending on the tease session for the week, you will need to gather, borrow or buy the items on my "tease ingredient list" prior to joining in on the weekly tease session. Items that can be purchased thru my affiliate program will have links attached to them so you can purchase easily ... because we know you want to participate in the tease session with your Mistress. 

Who owns your orgasms my horny boys? That is correct, Mistress Noir does. 

When you wish to buy toys via online please consider buying them thru the links provided on the my website and here on my blog, as it gives your Mistress credit and points so she can buy more toys and fun devices that in turn benefit you. They say its all about the  Mistress? Right... I think if you haven't figured this out, its all about you my dear minions.  

REALLY NOW ... ITS ALL ABOUT YOU!!!

Mistress Noir's slave shared his thoughts on whats its like to be my domestic slave...

 Warm fuzzies from a subby posted online ...

Mistress is stunningly beautiful, strict, demanding and worth every moment i am allowed to spend with her. Mistress is, in every sense, the real deal. Her wide array of toys (animate and inanimate) makes every experience fulfilling. Anyone allowed to be in Her stable of slaves and minions will be deeply honored to experience Her dominant ways. i love being Her sub. You would, too.

Then a few months later he says some more about his time with me ...

Mistress allowed me to be her house slave. After disrobing and receiving a butt plug and nipple clamps, I cleaned toilets, showers, bath tubs, floors, sinks, and mirrors. I cleaned her car and garage. I was then placed in a box and peered through a slit as Mistress pleased herself. The last thing i cleaned was her fingers. If you are a sub, you must contact Mistress, she is the best.

 Smooches, 

          Mistress Noir

Mistress Noir says BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR.... no really!!!

What can your Mistress say except, BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR BOYS & MEN!!! 

The video serves as a good reminder that not all our fantasies that play in our heads will play the same in somebody elses head. If you decide to pitch a fetish or fantasy to your partner its without a doubt a risky move with no way to determine its outcome, positive or negative. 

Women, when presented with kink and fetish, given no prior exposure, will typically not see your kink in the same way you have come to terms with it. If you wish for a woman to dominate you, its almost a given she isn't going to want to learn how to dominate you via you. We as humans have to have a reason to embrace new thoughts or consider things outside our comfort zone. 

My recommendation is if you wish to include your partner in your fetish, or wish they join in your kinky games you seek out some guidance, via a kink friendly counselor or someone who can give you ideas on how to pitch your desire so its given half a chance to the person you wish to "come out too". If she doesn't see the benefit of why she should let you wear panties while fucking her, she isn't going to hop on the panty bandwagon without some resistance. Conveying the value add of a kink or fetish incorporated into a real relationship can be a tricky thing to do, regardless of how open minded they are. 

I addvocate sharing and allowing partners the opportunity to embrace and incorporate kinks and fetishes with their partners. Just be cautious in how your unveil your kinks and realize the consequences of doing so sometimes wont be the outcome you pictured or hoped for. 

Happy kinky Saturday boys & girls,
Smooches, 
Mistress Noir

DIARY OF A CHASTITY EXPERIMENT ... Mistress Noir shares her experience...

 Chastity - Ruined Orgasms - Orgasm Denial

CB3000 or 8000 (lol) whatever ... Its a Cage for Your Cock

 21 days was the deal and he made it to 17 ... 

Here is a journal of our chastity experience.

http://chastityslaveofnoir.blogspot.com/

Yes, I was pissed how it ended but the experiment itself was a great learning experience and Im glad I did it as well as keeping a journal with the slave that agreed to do this experiment. 

As you can see, its an ungodly hour so its time to say Publish so I can go to bed. This technology stuff is kicking my brain with  all the nuances of making technology get up on the cloud. 

and you say, "Thank you Mistress Noir"... you are welcome subby's!!


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Social Media and Technology LOVE/HATE Relationship - The Mistress Noir

Just a quick note ... this internet cyberland social media stuff is another fucking full time job to manage...
Ugh!!!
That is, all I'm ranting about tonight!!!
Hope you all appreciate my New Years Resolution to get it together on the world wide web...

Kinky Kisses from your Mistress Noir

Mistress Noir shares a great note from a unhappy Kinkster

or so he thought he was unhappy....and it turned out nope he was happy after our session had a chance to sink in...

written 8 months ago:

hi ms noir.

i dont know if you remember me but we had a one time late night session a while ago then after that i pretty much pissed off. i wanted to apologize for how i acted after the fact. Im not a flakey person (even though im sure you disagree) and i just wanted to reach out and tell you how amazing of an experience that was. i didnt realize at the time but being with you really opened my eyes sexually, it was the first time that a fantasy became reality and honestly i didnt really know how to handle it. Im not making any excuses or anything and im sure youre beyond the point of caring of why i acted the way i did.

I guess the main point of this message was just for me to say thank you. thank you for everything. you are the first person in my life to impact my sexual desires in a positive way and im never gonna forget it. Ive never felt comfortable about my kinks and honestly ive never really felt comfortable in my own skin but that night really changed all that. I have nothing but genuine affection and gratitude for what you showed me and i just wanted to let you know because its been on my mind for awhile.

I love when someone gets something more than they gamble for. Then when the let me know,  even better!!!  

Smooches,
Mistress Noir

Mistress Noir - back on her original blog

 Im happy to be on my original blog again!!!

I feel as though my web guy did something wickedly magical given its with technology that I thought was all but lost. HE REVIVED MY ORIGINAL BLOG!!

Lets share a moment of ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh big gratitude since I thought I was starting from complete scratch on the world wide web AGAIN.  The blog that continued after I shut down and merged this one into my website, is unfortunately lost but it beats starting all the way from ZIP ZERO ZAPPED - NOTHING!!! 

YAY WEBGUY who saves my ass every time my technology tasks gets bigger than my brain can commute on its own. This last web disappearance totally all my own doing. Ugh!!! Sometimes I am not a one woman online superpower with super hero abilities in technical masterminding over the web. But I try. To the dismay of my web guy damn it I try.

Everyone seems to be blogging these days so its a miracle if anyone finds me, and by the lack of comments historically its like talking to yourself hoping for comments and interaction from those that follow me seems to be few and far between. Also, no fun. 

So if you have found me, and like a post or have a thought please share with me... it will encourage me to write and share more with you!!! Does this make sense? 

Smooches, 
Mistress Noir
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