A personal SUBMISSIVE - Do the even exist?

TO SUBMIT:
To overcome resistance to direction & yield one(self) to the will of another.

"Oh MISTRESS Oh MISTRESS come see what I can do with a sock and a rock and a little piece of leather string. I have a webcam which I beg of you to view - because when I say I want to serve you I really mean ...its all about me and my fetishes and the efforts made at getting me and my willie off...."
...Are you serious?

When you are serving a Mistress, why should it feel so damn labor intensive on my part?

If you want to serve me, you need to learn what submission is in the real world, which is in MY world.

Its not how well you lick on my ya ya...

Or that you crave a strap-on up your ass...

It has nothing to do with YOU actually.

The male fantasy has the dominant female serving all his kinky fetish needs and sweetie that is SO NOT submitting to me.

Submission CANNOT be imposed.

Control CAN be imposed or FORCED.

Often it is accomplished through tools of humiliation, intimidation, fear, pain, guilt and/or shame.

Dominants control not by fear, but by building desire in the submissive to obey.



BEING SUBMISSIVE IN CONCEPT IS A WHOLE DIFFERENT REALITY from being SUBMISSIVE IN THE REAL WORLD ON A DAILY BASIS ... 24/7

Real submissives actually submit. They submit more than just their bodies and do not only submit when they "feel like it" doing activities that are self serving for their pleasure ultimately in the acts of submssion they are engaging in.

Submission is not always easy at the hands of a strong dominant female. Submission doesn't give you a free pass from making decisions, thinking, or being responsible for your life and ultimate happiness.

Despite what those online think they can offer via a webcam or yahoo chat, in order to be a cherished sub, you will give of yourself even when you may not want to.

At some point I want to feel pride in your loyal devotion to me. If I snap my fingers across a room, you know what is expected of you at that moment and its obvious you belong to me and me alone.

Submission is NOT a sexual act - but sexual acts could be acts of submission...

YOU MUST EARN MY DESIRE FOR YOU...

Smart Alpha Males that kneel before me naked and give me the power to dangle over them the possibilities of ANYTHING I SO DESIRE is the most intoxicating feeling I can compare it too...

Mental gymnastics is a more mind fuck then a head game. I like to play in a submissives brain as much as I like to play with their body.

To serve me is more than knowing how to use your tongue orally or sitting in front of a computer screen having me watch you do STUPID things that feed your kinks and desires. Seriously, what kind of benefit do you think it gives me to watch you stroking your dick over a webcam? Serving me in a personal role, has nothing to do with YOUR laundry list of activities that you think is submission to me when its actually activities that are most likely self serving to your kinky desires.

Does a personal submissive exist?

Im grateful I have submissive clients... they are real and they do exist!!

THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

Need I say it? Damn its hot here today!!

Cheers,

Noir

Boobs - you want 'em you got 'em...

Crossdressers - Sissys - Sluts - and Girlfriends...

We appreciate a nice rack of boobs!!! Wow that sounds kinda like a guy drinking beer in a sports bar huh? Anyways, NOT!!

Breasts, so many of my crossdressers and sissys starting out fail to fill out their tops and their bras and dresses just right because they don't have BOOBS!! Whatcha thinking sugar?

First and foremost, if you are gonna dress up lets do it up right. Even the sluts can have a sassy sexy style to them so...

Im going to take a few minutes each week to talk just to my crossdressers, sissys, and sluts who follow my blog and visit me from time to time.

Speaking of???

Girls where are you hiding these days? Lordy Im gonna have to start playing dress-up with Miss Fortunes if you don't come forth ;-( and she doesn't like being my human Barbie doll.... (lol - I can picture our last dress up night - she ending up running around my place with her cock bouncing about... oh lordy what do the neighbors think?)

Let's talk about boob's. If you are fairly new in this fetish, you may not want to commit to a custom set of boobs or even an expensive set of boobs. But boys if you wanna wear the girly things you need some boobs... Or some stand-ins at the very least!!!

Im gonna make this super duper easy for anyone to get some good CHEAP standin's in less than 10 min. As long as you have all the supplies purchased.

You will need:

• a bra that fits you correctly (how to buy a bra correctly? another topic for another day or come see me and I will fit you correctly)
• 2 - 6 cups bird seed - not the variety mix just plain bird seed
• Ladies knee highs or a pair of pantyhose (no runs in the feet or toes please)

Now you put a cup of bird seed in a knee high and loosely tie it off. Put it in the cup of your bra, while wearing it and check yourself out. Does the cup look full? If not add more birdseed a half a cup at a time until you get the desired look. Once you like the size of your birdseed boob, knot it off a couple of times. If you knot it just right (just right is subjective) you can use the knot as a nipple.... Ohhhhhhhh, my ;-)~ I do know all the tricks. Now do the same for the other boob and poof ~ you got an easy pair of non-commital tits gurls, sissys, sluts and whores!!

I love crossdressing, especially the dressing up part. Taking a man from boxers to Victoria Secrets underwear and building from there is as fun as it is rewarding. So many come to me with almost a shame to this fetish they want to partake in. There is no shame in Noir's Lair boys, when we play dress-up. I love to transform my boys into the hottest and sexiest divas, slut, sissy or whores that they possibly can be.

There is method to the transformation process. Sometimes when you boys try to make the transformation on your own... A for effort but F for the end results. Being a girl even when you are born with girls parts can be a tough one... so much stuff to being a girl.

Transformation sessions are fun!! 2 hours and poof you are a SEXY BITCH...

Some of you know my girlfriend, Miss Fortunes!! I bring her into this post because she and I will team up with those that want the ULTIMATE TRANSFORMATION(save your pennies its affordable but not cheap) and sometimes even a photo shoot to top it off. Her make-up and eyelashes skills are by far the best I've seen in looking NATURALLY PRETTY, not garish nor street hooker style. (though some of you think that is pretty - icky NOT!!) My ability in the wardrobe dept. will have you looking the sexiest ever!! Whenever we transform one together, once we are done with our respective parts, the transformed knows he to a she, is the sexiest bitch ever... hands down!! Mirrors don't lie, I promise ~

If you ever want to invest in your diva look, treat yourself to an ultimate transformation, and even a photo shoot if that suits you. Shoot me an email. I'll be happy to fill you in on the details of our ULTIMATE TRANSFORMATION SESSION.

Gotta go - some young cutie is gonna learn to suck my cock and take it up his tight lil buttonhole. OOOOhh the fun in being their first!!! Giggles.... how appropriate and its hump day to boot.

kiss kiss ~

Mistress Noir

to be loved by so many I never even meet?

Im not quite sure how I feel about all my fans that I seem to have from afar... What does a Mistress gain by having admirers she never meets? I give this one a 50/50 for eventually meeting...

Nice words, John. Thank you !!

I just wish those nice words bought groceries or a new dildo or something more tangible than.... [snap - Mistress be kind, don't say something you can't rewind !! Okay - self preservation... thank you!!]

Still, he took the time to write so I will take and share his kind words .... oh joy the warm fuzzies galore!!

Mistress Noir,

Good morning. My name is john and I am writing you in reference to you being such an awesome, unique, seductive and "craved" woman. I find myself simply in "heat" for you often.

I am not writing with any BS or jerkoff type of situation, rather, I just find you more of a "one in a million" type of dominant woman and I clearly find myself so in tune with your personna.

I actually live in North Carolina, yep, just a couple thousand miles away but get into Phoenix/Scottsdale about 4 times per year on business. I am a good looking professional white male, 45 years old. I stand 6'1, have blonde hair/blue eyes and weigh about 210 pounds. I am ultra clean, keep myself in good physical shape, have excellent hygiene and a very fun, outgoing and uninhibited personality. I am married but long ago gave up resisting the fact that I am what I am and that is a true submissive at heart, a slut and someone who loves being experimented with. I have a career in the golf business and am sure you would find me to be well kept, clean cut and attractive. Of course, it all started at looking at your writings, comments and seductive pictures on backpage. Loved your heart shaped Pussy on valantines day, that was cool. I do find you very atractive, to teh point that I could easily find myself getting as much of your juice inside my body to grow and nourish as possible.............but your eyes to me are the true addiction that I love so much. You are also just a very cool woman I can tell. I then foubnd your website through Max/Fisch and immediately entered. I read the cuckold entry for one of your submissives and loved it. I do have a special unique feature in that I can truly get so into a scenario that I do loose complete control and can be cohorsed into going much, much deeper than I thoght possible. I get to the point that the desire and need is so strong that I simply cannot say no. You could take me so much further into that than he could take in that I would be nothing less than your whore to manipulte, use and fuck in many ways...............The tase of your ass could easily be a taste needed and acquired. I will not burden you with the 50 ways I could become addicted to your usage of me and yet on teh other hand you seem so erotic and sensual that everything seems to come together in a whirlwind of excitement.

No headgames hear Mistress Noir. Just the simple truth. I also don't typically write these kind of emails but you are as they say "a rare find"! No question there. I hope to find myself in front of you on my next visit which is important, but more importantly, I just wanted you to know that I am a huge fan of yours!

Keep up the awesome work!

Puppet got EXACTLY what he WANTED...

As a professional dominatrix, I take my path and the journey on it to heart. I don’t fake my way along but I do have strong connections to some submissives beyond the client / mistress session arrangements or one time fantasy fulfillment requests…

I have a puppet who wants to feel he has no control or any options with his Mistress… almost a blackmail type leverage. This is what he wrote after Fridays session with me~

~~~ I am in awe and love that You want to use this puppet.

~~~ The mind is settling down a little bit. What a mind rush I have been experiencing. Since I have always respected Your mind I was shocked when I heard Your voicemail in Friday about no options about showing up. I know Your resources and Your past as a headhunter. Combine that with Your recollection so far and I was convinced You could do as You mentioned. That also transcended into the time spent in the mansion on Friday as that was more leverage than You know. Every time You asked for information I thought about that VM and believed i had no choice (And still believe that).

~~~ I have never met a mind such as yours and my immediate responses were the most genuine that i have ever had. Certainly I have been very bound but never mentally worked as You did. Even when paraded in front of the people there I have never felt as out of options as I did then. And I was truly truly truly scared when You told me to swallow the key. Maybe not knowing Your mind too well helped that feeling but I have never been more sincere in begging. Truly at Your mercy.

~~~ After I left I was still in a dilemma as wife was home sick and I was duct taped and as far as I knew had writing on my back. I had to go to a parking lot and take my pants off to get the tape off before venturing back. Still reveling in Your dismissal and knowing You knew the house was occupied. The writing scared me to death and was relieved in that it was a mind fuck but am fully aware it could have been in red sharpie.

~~~ Also I took stock in that You truly have what You need and I will be used in many ways, maybe more out of the dungeon that in. In actuality I love that You can pull this puppet’s strings on Your whim. ~~~

My comments to that puppet are...

As Gene Simmons says on his Family Jewels Show... ~"Its good to be Me"~ !!!

**** Puppet is no longer under my thumb but he wrestles with the thought of falling down my rabbit hole again and again. The difference now is HE KNOWS IM CAPABLE OF GIVING HIM EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTS AND GETTING EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTS SCARES HIM SILLY!!! ****

Poor puppet... but I do think you made the best decision for you at this point in time.... Our paths are not done crossing yet,until we collide again take care my sweet totally screwed slave. [and puppet found out that it wasn't red sharpie but yes there was writing on his back ... tee hee hee in red lipstick]

Puppet wrote me a 10 chapter fantasy ... once I get chapter 10 I will publish it on my blog. Thank you BITCH!!! Yuuuummmm I love calling him bitch ~especially as he stands before me .... I see his eyes melt the second I roll BITCH off my tongue.

A CUCKED SESSION WITH MISTRESS NOIR

When I get an email like this... it feels tingly good.

I appreciate when my clients take a moment and follow up our sessions with feedback. (BAD OR GOOD) Its valuable and it makes me a better fetish facilitator, dominatrix and Mistress at the end of the day. Its sessions such as this one, that keeps me motivated to do what I do... FACILITATE FANTASY, NURTURE KINK, and provide safe EXPLORATION of FETISHES to those that want ... need... crave what I can offer in the role of your DOMINATRIX.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend, its triple digits in Phx today... ick!!

Mistress Noir



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A warm and fuzzy email recv'd after our session friday -

THANK YOU


I would like to take a few more minutes and tell you again how much I enjoyed our session. It was incredible. I enjoyed our talk afterward and appreciated your opinion and candor. I tried to be open and upfront and honest in my views as well.

I have to admit, the high point for me was kneeling in front of you, masturbating while you were keeping your face in close proximity to mine and hurting me by squeezing my nipples. Never have I felt so dirty, so nasty, so cheap, so slutty, and so owned. I think I almost would have done anything at that point. I wished you had told me to tell you I was your dirty little whore...I would have so felt like your dirty little whore and would have easily told you, and said anything you wanted to hear from me. I felt so "handled" and so "owned".

Things I liked...
-told to strip as soon as I got in the door
-made to wear feminine (and slutty) lingerie for the session
-trained to suck a dildo
-having you penetrate me with your hand. I might next time see about a small dick penetrate me. Not totally ready for it yet. That is why I need a good and loving Mistress to train me to cuckoldem.I would LOVE to be closely held by my Mistress as she fucks my man pussy gently. In touching my prostrate....I was actually more curious than anything...what is prostrate milking? Would you have done that to me? I was very nervous and scared.
-I loved whatever humiliation you gave.
-Loved it when you inspected my little dick and kept commenting about it.
-Loved it when you told me you were going to turn me into a girl, a sissy girly slut.
-I loved the way you made eye contact with me and forced yourself on my via eye contact.
-I LOVED your lipstick.....and LOVED it when you had your lips inches away from mine. I really though you were going to kiss me. I would love to be kissed by my Mistress when looking like a slut.

Things I did not like...
-I was not ready for spanking, though you did not go overboard. Thanks. So really, at the level you did, I was OK, I just would not have liked it if it went way too far.
-hurting my nipples. OK, I did not like the severity, and yet I loved it as it made me so much more submissive, felt so much more dirty and felt so owned by you at that time.
penetration....I will need to get used to that little by little..

I really do want to experience the real role of a cuckold to beautiful Mistress (you are one) and her lover...to be forced, or forcefully coerced into sucking her mans dick. I would love to be stood up to her lover and compare his dick to mine side by side, telling me to submit to the REAL man in the room by putting a REAL cock in my mouth. I would love to do clean up duty, and lick his cum off you. I do want to experience that. One day perhaps, if I find the right Mistress wherever I am located.

At the end when we talked, I asked you how I did and if I had potential. I told you if I ever got divorced, I would want to marry another woman who it would be OK by me to take on other lovers and fuck other men. I told you I think I would be OK with that, You told me you thought it would not take long for that woman to assert herself into making me her cuckold. I would love to hear more of your thoughts on (1) my potential as a sissy slut for you personally if I was in Phoenix/Tempe area, and would it be feasible while i was still ___________. And (2) If I did remarry, based on what you know about me, and talked with me about, would I really be a cuckold to my new wife? I think I could be, but she would have to be very dominating in our relationship. I always felt my next wife could have other lovers as long as she came home to me in my bed.

One last question...would you want to take me on as your sissy slut if I moved this way? The reason I asked is I do have a job I am looking at based in Central Arizona. So if I interviewed and got the job, I would move here. And I crave Domination and Humiliation and have no one that understands that about me and will work with me.

Just curious.



Thanks again, so many times, thanks.
(Cuck'D53)

Hater's !! sigh ... I can't save 'em all ~

A nice little email from an unknown "submissive" I presume in an online BDSM community to which I have belonged FOREVER and I don't hide the fact I professionally dominate... this profile the submissive responded too was tailored more for personal connections but the reality here boys and girls is ... I AM A PRO-DOMME YES, PROUD!!

NAKED on 6/4/10 at 4:35 PM:
hi there your not one of the money hungry pro doms on here looking for a paycheck only i hope... hit me up if your not and your the real deal... and your ready to make a new friend...

My response to NAKED was:

I am a lifestyle dominant and YES I do professionally dominate... I dont expect peoples paychecks but I do give fetish sessions to which I am compensated.

Most adults that provide professional services related to a specific skill or training that others seek out DO GET PAID for their time.

I don't expect everyone to share the same beliefs, morals, opinions, and knowledge as I but I do offer a service that has valid merit. I have to be the real deal as its a small world after all.

Getting session fee's doesn't lessen my dominance, talents, skills, and experience that I use in my professional services as I use also in my daily life. I understand that adult service providing communities, services, establishments and online websites can be scandalous, but so can churches, politicians, law enforcement, and other groups of mankind.

I doubt Im ready to meet such a judgmental "friend" in a bdsm community where tolerance and understanding to those with different kinks and fetishes is hoped for on a most basic of levels. Naked thank you for your email and I wish you all the best in your quest for the alt and kink in your journey!!

Mistress Noir

Let the games begin - kinks and fetishes I enjoy!!

Would it help to blog on my kinky activity buffet of fetishes I like and the best way to schedule session with me.

There are those that fantasize and those that bring the fantasy to life. I live for the experience. I believe the fantasy is the script but it is the experience that takes the thoughts in their mind and brings them to life.


Let's play it out.. kinky play and fetish fantasies don't have to be all dark and dungeon. I am in control, I am dominating you but that doesn't mean you have accept painful roleplay. Unless of course you are a PAINSLUT!! I always welcome a fun pain slut but I do understand it isn't everyones bag of fun.

Im experienced in a plethora of kinks and my imagination keeps the games and sessions fun. Role-playing sessions [dragon lady boss - governess - cheating wife - Dr. - teacher - mommy - bad girl]are all characters I can easily morph into should the scene require it.I enjoy a plethora list of fetishes - OMG its an activity buffet…

LET THE GAMES BEGIN

* Tease & Denial
* Strap-On and SLUT Training
* Prostate Play & Milking
* Toy Exploration
* Mental Gymnastics/Mind Games
* Edge play
* S&M
* Immobilization/Mummification
* Urethra Stuffing and Sounds
* Genital Torture
* Vintage Lingerie
* Queening
* Goddess Worship [some restrictions may or may not apply]
* CBT mild to extreme
* SP Humiliation
* Verbal Humiliation [public or private]
* Spankings [discipline & role-play]
* Forced-Fem with the Mistress [only] and her strappy-0n
* Foot Worship & High Heels
* Restraining and Bondage Games
* Clothed Female Naked Man Games
* Water Sporting
* Power Exchange D/s
* Cross-dressing & Dress-up

THE ACTIVITIES & SESSIONS LISTED BELOW REQUIRE RESERVATIONS 24 HOUR in ADVANCE & A MINIMUM 50$ DEPOSIT at the time you make your session reservation [I typically use "green dot money paks" when deposit is required]
* Medical Fetish [VERY EXPERIENCED in THIS FETISH]
* Total Transformation Makeovers & Shopping
* Glamour Photo Sessions [inquire directly about this service]
* Extended Sissy Training [long term contract]
* Double Domination with another dominant male / female
* Forced Bi/Fem & Cuckold activities with bull and myself
* Extended Chastity & Key Holding Services

Sessions must be booked directly via phone and for pete sake KNOW IF & WHEN YOU CAN PLAY PRIOR to CALLING ME!!

I cater to fetish, kink, and fantasy in a safe private discreet domestic setting.

*INCALL ONLY* TEMPE,AZ CLOSE TO MILL AND UNIVERSITY... the FUN PLACE TO PLAY


>> My time alone is based on donation suggestions as follows:

Its up to you what you tribute but here is the range that works for me -$180/220 phr (unless its medical or some extreme roleplay in which session supplies could require additional expense)

>> Longer sessions (including overnights) are available


Thank you!

MISTRESS NOIR
Blocked/Private/Text calls are not answered
**4.8.0 - 2.5.5 - 6.2.2.1**

and what if you can't AFFORD TO SESSION WITH the Mistress? Well its a bummer but what one wants and what one gets largely depends on how attractive you make the offer to play with you ... Money Talks and so do a few choice other things if cash is something YOU CANT DO!!

?? CAN'T TRIBUTE WITH HARD COLD CASH??

Well hmmmm...

Are you a talented submissive who can serve me in trade by bartering their services or gifting items I have listed below:

- Black Durable Wrist and Ankle Cuffs

- STEEL RESTRAINTS AND BARS

- WEB MGR: for ongoing content managment

- "Metal/Welder" that has the resources and tools to make me a couple custom pieces for MY pleasure

- A dildo that fits my chin/thigh harness - A inflatable butt plug - A quality Enema bag with nozzles - Leather Restraints

- Insertable Pyrex Toys {inquire for specifics}

- Fetish Costume Designer and Tailoring Services

- Fetish Shoes and Boots [inquire for specifics] {I HAVE 1 SHOE SLAVE AT THIS TIME}

- Legal / Business Advisor

- Small Exam Table with Stirups

- Spanking Bench [must be a specific style so inquire before making or purchasing this item] {THIS IS BEING CUSTOM MADE}

- CORSETS

I HAVE A WISHLIST on THETHINGSIWANT.com UNDER MSNOIR